Spring in France is a wonderful time of year. The days start to get longer and you begin to see the flowers bloom after months of cloudy grey winter. You know that summer is on it’s way. It’s an amazing time of year.
But the one change that is the most noticeable to me is the level of happiness that you can see on everybody’s faces. When you walk down the street, or when you pick up your baguette from the bakery in the morning, the expressions you see on people’s faces have definitely moved from sombre and serious to cheerful and bright.
The change in season makes people happier. And when you feel happy, you also feel more confident, internally and externally.
For me, the extra sunlight (until 10pm at night!), the warmer temperature, and the blue skies motivate me to step outside of my comfort zone, make ambitious goals and work to achieve those goals.
There are many actions you can take to become happier and more confident in your life. What action you choose to take is really up to you. But sometimes knowing where to start is the hardest part, so I want to give you four ideas in this article. Then, after you’ve read these four ideas, I want you to choose at least one of them to put into action this week.
1. Do Something New Every Day
It’s completely normal to want to stay inside your comfort zone and stick to what you know. But stepping over the barrier that separates you from “where you are now” and “where you want to be” is a crucial step to feeling more confident. You don’t have to take up skydiving or make a drastic move to a different country to stretch your zone of comfort. There are many simple, every day steps you can take to build your confidence just the same. Personally, if I want to add some adventure to my day, I pack up my laptop, walk into town, and visit a coffee shop I’ve never been to before. This might seem simple, but the change of scenery and environment triggers a whole range of new ideas, new perspectives and newfound confidence inside of me. Take a few minutes to think about what you can do today to feel more alive and inspired.
2. Use Confident Body Language
We’ve all heard of Amy Cuddy’s TedX talk about power poses. If you haven’t seen this yet, I highly recommend you check it out. Although some may believe that you have to feel confident inside before you can project confidence to others, let me tell you through personal experience, it can work the other way, too. Power poses are perfect for business meetings if you’re tired of never getting your opinions heard. They can also work in social situations when you’re trying to win an argument with your friend. The idea behind power poses is to take up more space and to use open body language postures. So instead of sitting down with your arms folded and your legs crossed, rest your arms on the armrests and claim your space.
3. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Comparing yourself to others who have taken a different path in their life and have made different decisions is a sure-fire way to a downward spiral of never feeling good enough. This is one of the most common confidence crushers because you’re always focusing on what you don’t have, rather than on what you do have. Here’s what I recommend: create a gratitude list of everything you have (tangible or intangible) that you are thankful for. Whenever you start to compare yourself against a friend or coworker, take out this list and read it over three times to remind yourself of all the wonderful things you have, or have achieved in your life.
4. Use Positive Self-Talk Every Morning and Every Night
If you’re going to take away just one piece of advice from this post, this is the most powerful piece of advice you can take with you: commit to positive self-talk every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep. When you start and end your day with positive, confident affirmations, you can really change your outlook on life. The mantra I use is really quite simple, and I invite you to use it too, if it’s the right fit for you. The mantra I use is, “I’m worthy of success”. If this mantra doesn’t feel right for you, you can create your own. But the most important part is to commit to repeating it every morning and every night, until it becomes a part of you.
Now, I’d love to hear from you: Which of the above four ideas did you find the most helpful? Please leave your answer in the section below.